Friday, 19 April 2013

A is for Abligurition

Spending just an inconceivably large amount of money on food.

Thursday, 18 April 2013

On my way home.......

And so it is that the All Cape has come to an end for my team. It has been an eventful week but very rewarding. Playing in the Southern Cape at 4 different clubs was a challenge as the greens run a lot slower than our home club.  But the friendships developed over these last couple of days will last a lifetime.  So watch this space as I am almost home so all the pic's and stories will follow shortly.......

Friday, 12 April 2013

Leaving for Knysna

Today I leave for Knysna on the start of a brand new adventure.  For me, going on a sports tournament is a brand new adventure as I never had the opportunities growing up to be able to participate in any sort of camps and sports tours.  Various factors in my life prevented me from being able to have such opportunities, so please forgive me for my excitement.  I will post a daily diary just to make sure you don't miss out on any of my little tour......

Thursday, 11 April 2013

Email to My exSouth African friend in Aussie

We suspect this letter written by Paul Harris, will resonate with other people that only get bad news from friends who live abroad.
Hi Jeff
Hope all is well with you guys. I will drop you a line later with the family news but I would first like to respond to the email you sent me attaching an article by Clem Sunter which seemed to concern you about us here in South Africa.
You also sent me an article last year by Moletsi Mbeki warning about the danger of an an “Arab Spring” in South Africa. I often get emails like this from “concerned friends” worried about us which is sweet of you guys. Of course we are concerned. Some worrying things have happened but we have been through and survived much worse in much more volatile environments. Including the Boer War, two World Wars, Apartheid , the Rindapest, Ge Korsten and Die Antwoord !
However for as long as I can remember there have always been people who think SA has 5 years left before we go over the cliff. No change from when I was at school in the sixties. The 5 years went down to a few months at times in the eighties! But it seems the people who are the most worried live far from the cliff in places like Toronto, Auckland, London and other wet and cold places. Also from St  Ives and Rose Bay in Sydney,  Dallas and Europe and other “safe places” that are in the grips of the Global Financial Crisis, which by the way is quite scary. Many of them have survived decades of rolling “5 years left” since they left South Africa. So maybe they will be right one day!
My message is, please don’t stress about us in South Africa. We are fine. We are cool. We know we live in the most beautiful country in the world inhabited by the warm and vibrant people. There are more people here with smiles on their faces than any country I have ever been to! Young people are returning in droves with skills and a positive attitude. Collectively we bumble along and stuff many things up while letting off a hell of a lot of steam (have you heard of a chap called Julius Malema?). Yet in between South Africans do some amazing things like win a few gold medals, big golf tournaments and cricket and rugby matches. The South Africans I know get off their butts and do things to build our country rather than whinge from a position of comfort.  We actively participate in projects that improve the lot of underprivileged communities. I would not trade for anything last Saturday in a hall full of 1500 African teachers singing at the top of their voices and demonstrating their commitment to improving education in their communities.
We have our challenges and surprises. The standard deviation of our emotions are set at MAX. You are never just a “little bit happy” or a “little bit sad”. At one moment you can be “off the scale”  pissed off or frustrated or sad or worried or fearful or depressed . The next moment you “off the scale” exhilarated, or enchanted, or inspired, or humbled by a kind deed, or surprised by something beautiful . It makes life interesting and worth living. After all why do we have emotions?
We also have passionate debates about the future of SA. Helped of course by red wine which you must taste again because it is getting better every year! Clem makes a great contribution to the debate as do others like Moletsi Mbeki. Russell Loubser the ex head of the JSE made a feisty speech the other day that has whipped up emotions. Up to MAX on the emotions meter of the ANC Youth League whose campaign for nationalisation of the mines was attributed to people who have IQ’ s equal to room temperature. South African politics has always been volatile, we have opinions that could not be further apart and it evokes emotion on a massive scale. Interesting and stimulating for those that want to take it seriously but noise in the system to me. Fortunately we are rid of Apartheid that would definitely have pushed us over the cliff. These are the birth pangs of a new and unpredictable democracy. So buckle up and enjoy the ride and contribute ! That is the message I convey to South Africans.
Sad as it is, it is true that the South African diaspora has a largely negative influence on confidence in South Africa. It would not be a problem if their fretting about how long we will last before we go over the cliff was merely a reflection of their concern for us, their friends and family. The problem is that it does impact foreign investment which is important for economic growth. A person that is thinking of coming to visit or investing is often put off by listening wide eyed at the stories of people who have gapped it. As you know I own Ellerman House that hosts many foreign visitors and I have never, EVER, met anyone who has visited for the first time without being blown away by the beauty of the country and the warmth of the people. It is not for nothing that South Africa has the highest ratio of repeat visitors of all long haul destinations.
So, Jeff, how can I help you stop stressing out about us? Maybe best is that you get exposed to some articles and web sites that give a more balanced and uplifting perspective of South Africa. I have attached some links below that you may find interesting. The two websites are SA The Goods News  and The Homecoming Revolution, both have stories that will make you feel better. The article is by a young Jewish lady Martine Schaffer that I work with and admire greatly.
I will sum up my feelings about South Africa with a quote from Joanne Fedler’s book ‘When Hungry – Eat’ that Martine also quotes. Joanne emigrated to Australia in early 2000.“South Africa is a place of spirit-distorting paradox, a land with a bipolar disorder that swings you from joy to despair in the space of a heartbeat. It twists your arm behind your back and ties your sanity in a knot. It bullies you until you’ve forged your opinion on politics, crime, AIDS, the state of the roads, the economy or the politicians. It’s not for the wishy washy or the fence sitters. It demands you know who you are and what you stand for. It keeps you fit, on your toes and looking over your shoulder. It steals your purse and holds your soul ransom. As much as I was, at times, on the edge of sanity living there, I was also stimulated, driven and felt bungy-jumpingly alive. The shades of happiness and fear mottled. I knew that leaving, like chemotherapy, would kill off the best things in my life as well as the worst.”
So please don’t worry and if you get a chance put in a good word for us.
All the best
Paul Harris


Love this quote by John Lennon.  It reminds me of the time my brother was asked to draw "plates" in school, and when he drew 2 round patterned plates for his teacher, she grew irate and said to him, plates man, don't you know what plates are???  Girls wear their hair in 'plates'.  Being a bit overwhelmed, boet decided not to say a word but mum was called in as he was insubordinate and would not listen to instruction.  My mum, of course tended to agree with boet and said he had drawn beautiful plates, which of course made teacher even more irate.  Mum, relented and decided to explain to the afrikaans accented teacher that had she asked her son to draw plaites, and not plates he would have indeed done the correct drawing as having 3 big sisters with long hair he knew exactly what that was.  I guess my point is that life is so full of misinterpreted conversations, misguided quotes and heated arguments, we tend to forget what we are all here for.....

Wednesday, 10 April 2013

Thank you.....

How many times a day do we say 'thank you'?  I know we say it a lot, it just rolls off our tongues when we receive something, pay for something etc.  But how many times do we say thank you for something and really mean it?  When I came across the pic I am posting today, something triggered in my brain.  Those 2 little words with a huge meaning, just pass my lips without a thought many times a day.  

So I leave you today with this implanted in your brain.  When you say thank you today for any reason, stop and think and say it from your heart.  

Tuesday, 9 April 2013

Wise words......

I often sit in front of my pc wondering how to move forward.  Sometimes one is so bogged down in life and just trying to live it, one forgets the basics. But they never leave you, the little life lessons learnt from great people, like your parents, just sometimes need a little nudge, and there we have it, forward motion.

So as I sit in front of my pc this morning, readying myself for a busy day ahead, I just clear my head, get back to basics and put my best foot forward...... (thanks mum, you are definitely on my shoulder today :) )

Have a fabulous day everybody...........